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To Move Forward Something Must Die
See a subject that resurfaces time and time again with my clients is relationships. This has only increased after I shared a very vulnerable story about how my marriage almost ended in my first book, From Heart to HRart. Relationships are hard, whether it’s with family, friends, co-worker or your significant other. Being vulnerable and providing permission to others to be so close and intimate is also putting ourselves at risk for the most amount of pain. The number one question that is asked of me in regards to my marriage and how it is stronger today more than ever is, what did you do?
2018 Year in Review
Instagram has a #tradition of reviewing the year by sharing nine images. Curating my nine images served as the starting point to my reflective practice and despite the fact that I did manage to select nine images, I came to the realization that there were many more moments that deserved acknowledgment. So here is my year in review and my most significant 18 moments of 2018.
The Art of Brooding
Do you brood? Unfortunately, I believe this is a skill set that I have mastered over the course of my life. Being detailed oriented is commonly a skill that I lack, however when it comes to brooding I have a knack for focusing on the details. If you aren’t sure what I mean by brooding, let me break it down for you. Whenever a circumstance presented itself, resulting in me being unhappy, I would basically analyze it to death. With the level of analyzation needed to achieve this goal, it required holding onto the initial circumstances for great lengths and in some special scenarios almost indefinitely. That my friend is brooding at it’s finest. I became an expert at dissecting the situations that made me unhappy, usually motivated by the pursuit of someone else to blame besides myself. Trying to increase my self-worth by uncovering evidence that proved I was not the fool this time.
The Way I Am
Are you a Charlie Pluth fan? I currently have his album, Voicenotes, in my car and it’s my go-to whenever I can’t find something to jam to on the radio and I haven’t plugged my phone in for easy access to Spotify. The album kicks off with a catchy tune called “The Way I Am” which is actually Pluth’s personal anthem of self-acceptance. The lyrics personally hit home for me, especially as I reflected on my week.
Mindfulness is all the rage these days. It seems like everywhere we turn there’s something about mindfulness in the news, online, in stores, etc. But what does it mean to be mindful and how does it apply to our conversations in both our personal and professional lives? Mindfulness, by definition, is simply bringing your full awareness to the present moment, and only the present moment. Mindful conversation then is to be fully present in a conversation. Your attention is 110% in the conversation.
The Key to Effective Communication – Leaving emotion out of it
“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” - Tony Robbins There’s no escaping the important role of good, clear communication in all aspects of our lives. Yet, despite its importance, communication is something with which most of us continually struggle. But as Tony Robbins points out, how we perceive the world is at the center of our communication.